Systematically

I am not really sure how it happened.  We never really discussed it or planned it.  But my Husband and I definitely have a system.  I am not even really sure I realized until this last few months.

My Husband is fun, unplanned most of the time and spontaneous.  You never know what is next and that is not always a bad thing.  I always say he will do most anything for a smile.  It is hard to deal with at times when you are me.  I am a planner. I try to have it all organized and I have a back up plan in case plan A, B or C does not work.  Sound crazy?  Yeah you are probably not alone but, neither am I.

But I have learned we balance each other.  I make sure the stuff that has to be planned is planned and in place.  He makes sure I see that when plans do not work out it is not always a bad thing.

In the last couple of months I got to do a lot of things that were not originally planned.  Like move into our first house that we bought.  And when I say we I mean me.  Somehow our plans and systems were not there to fall back on.  I say somehow but the truth is that somehow actually equals because of the Navy.

I did not realize until I was in the middle of the move and forgot to transfer medical records that we had a system in place.  There were things that my wonderful Husband did during a move and things that I did. We did not have a big planning meeting or anything it just the way things worked.  When I realized after getting my stuff at the new house that I forgot to turn off the old phone and satellite.  When I realized a car was due for an oil change.  All these things that when we are together are a piece of cake.  And by the way all but the oil change are always my job during a move.  But I was caught up doing his job because he was not here and I did not want to let us (our family unit) down by not doing his job well enough.  Yeah I am laughing too at how silly that sounds.

We go on about our lives day in and day out and do not always realize what we have.  In the end I have learned that I can do it all by myself.  But I do not want to.  I want my system back because I am a planner.  But also because my system, our system is a very key part to how our life works.  My Husband is the other half that completes me.  He does his part of the system very well and let's me do my part because he is here.  I am so glad that the Navy is returning him soon.  I need my other half so we can back to your system.